Many couples believe living together will give them a test run at marriage. Some consider it a less constricting alternative to tying the knot. Others don't want to be alone.
Choose to make a lasting commitment. Saying no to sex is not easy, especially when you are physically attracted to someone and honestly care about them. However, a lasting relationship is not based on sex alone. In fact, premarital sex might even destroy an existing relationship. Say no to sex in a positive and loving way that will help build a lasting commitment. Here are a few suggestions on how to say no:
- "Everyone is having sex but us."
Response: "I don't want to be like everyone else. Our relationship is special, not like the others which are based soley on sex."
- "If you love me so much, then prove it."
Response: "I do love you. If you honestly love me, you wouldn't ask me to prove anything, but just accept me as I am."
- "We both love each other, so who will be hurt if we have sex?"
Response: "Of course we love each other now, but what if we break up? It's not fair to ourselves or to the persons whom we eventually marry."
- "Don't worry, you won't get pregnant."
Response: "I really love you, but I just don't feel it's right to have sex before we are married. Please understand and respect my decision."
Frequently Asked Questions and Answers
Q: Can't we see how we'll get along when we're married by living together?
As it turns out, living together undermines both partners' attitudes toward the one thing that ultimately keeps couples together--commitment. Instead of sticking it out through arguments and tough times, couples who move in often give up and move out. Commitment, as evidenced by marriage, is much more likely to endure through the tough times.
Q: Why is moving in together a bad thing if we're commited to each other?
Commitment is more than just sharing living space. It is a deep and lasting bond that says "no matter what, I'm sticking with you." If you truly are committed to each other for the long haul, why wouldn't you make it official"? What's holding you or your partner back? Those who are really committed are willing to show it by going for that piece of paper.
Q: Why do unmarried couples seem happier, why do I want to feel tied down and unhappy?
While it is true that some married couples don't live in bliss, it's also true that couples who live together are, on average, far less happy than married couples. In fact, studies even show that married couples have fewer disagreements
Studies also show that, overall, marriage relationships are far more fulfilling - sexually and otherwise - than those between live-ins. Despite what you hear on TV, married couples are the most physically and emotionally satisfied with their sex lives.
The marriage commitment results in a more complete and unreserved giving of oneself by both partners. Marriage offers better physical and emotional fulfillment.
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